Couples counselling (which can also be referred to as marriage guidance/therapy) , is a term applied to talk therapy for two people in an intimate relationship/marriage with a therapist. It provides space for couples to discuss their difficulties with a neutral third party, the therapist. It looks to prove communication and resolve the issues within the relationship. Some couples may seek couples therapy to face/contemplate an ending of their relationship in order to end the relationship with good terms.

Does couples therapy really help?

Couples Counselling / Relationship Therapy is very likely to help based on our experience helping people both within their relationships and personal growth. It can, and does change lives.

After counselling hundreds of people, we have seen the change in many of our clients who leave with a better understanding of themselves, their partner and their relationships with family, friends and children.

Should I come alone or with a partner?

Usually, for couples therapy both you and your partner come to counselling sessions together. It makes sense that in order to work on a better relationship, it is best to do this with your partner, but we understand this is not always possible.

We see lots of people on their own, some choosing to do this and sometimes they may have an unwilling partner. We also offer counselling to individuals who have recently ended relationships or are in between relationships, or who wish to work on their relationships in general. It might be that you have difficulty entering relationships or maintaining a serious long term relationship and wish to work on this area.

Many couples suffer in silence

Talking to your partner is very often the first step of moving forward together but often the most difficult thing to do and can provoke a lot of anxiety. Talking to your partner about difficulties and voicing your wish to seek counselling can be seen by ourselves and others as asking for divorce or separation and we often fear the reaction we might get. Suffering in silence can also be extremely difficult. 

We counsel and offer consultations for individuals to discuss the implications or raising these issues with your partner and offer help on how you might introduce the idea of couples therapy with your partner.

Your Unique Story

When you book a session with The Koan Practice we will initially listen to your unique situation. Our experienced relationship counsellors can then with their experience offer a therapy modality that is mot likely to help you. We aim to support and strengthen families with affordable relationship counselling in London.

Confidential Couples Counselling

If you come to counselling as a couple we would normally assume / expect that information can be shared between you. Other than that your counselling with The Koan Practice is entirely confidential and we work to professional and ethical standards including confidentiality. We will never disclose information about you to a third party without your prior consent. The only time this might not be the case is where we have great concern you might cause harm to yourself or to others. This would normally be discussed with you before and information is shared. 

Our couples therapists are;

David Oldman

Michael Dewan-Herrick

Patience Chabvuta

Lindy Mlilo

Should you wish to book for an initial consultation with one of our relationship counsellors, you can book online. Alternatively, you can contact us.